Ever been in a conversation while simultaneously having another more anxious one in your head?

Asking yourself, did I make sense? Why did I say it like that? Do they look bored?

That split focus can quietly pull you out of the conversation and make things awkward quickly.

I’ve written a short blog about why this happens, what damaging effect self-monitoring has on your communication, and how to bring yourself back to the person in front of you to connect better and leave happier.

If you like to anticipate problems and stay in control, public speaking can feel impossible. You imagine forgetting your words, messing up, or being judged, and your body reacts before you even start. The key is not trying to stop the fear but noticing it, staying present, and focusing on connection. Shifting from imagined failure to mindful presence turns nervous energy into confidence and transforms fear into agency.